Do I Have to Do It All Myself?

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"Do I have to do it all myself?"

I honestly thought, while cooking a multi-layered meal for four — one that I myself had offered to do!

To be clear, help was for sure available...but I was in "I got this" mode.

Blinders on.

Do you know the mode? 

Assistance prevailed, and I was grateful.

Carrying the whole thing by ourselves is unnecessary — and it's dangerous thinking.

We already know the pull of loneliness as it is. {A rapidly growing loneliness epidemic}.

Sometime feels like a heavy load and then we turn away support?

No. We can't afford that.

I know, it's often not our automatic instinct to ask for help.

In fact, we'll go to great lengths to avoid any "inconvenience."

From scraping coconut milk out of the can using the lid to get it done…to riding the train cross country India with no itinerary...

I’ll be strong and figure it out — independently.

Well, I now believe we can be in our power and ask for help at the same time.

Being in our power requires that we find our power.

There are treasures in the endless discovery of "different faces of feminine."

 Art by Allison Kunath

Art by Allison Kunath

It could be that different times of our lives require different archetypes.

In one of my favorite books, Awakening Shakti, Sally Kempton’s wealth of beautifully told tories depict these faces:

Kali  bringer of strength, fierce love, and untamed freedom

Lakshmi  who confers prosperity and beauty

Saraswati  for clarity of communication and intuition

Radha  who carries the divine energy of spiritual longing

Bhuvaneshvari  who creates the space for sacred transformation

Parvati   to awaken creativity and the capacity to love

Sometimes there's fierceness and sometimes the capacity to surrender. There's a dance between the two archetypes. 

We can try these on, learn to see them in ourselves and others.

And in a combination of:

1. proverbial blood

2. proverbial sweat

3. proverbial tears


We see ways to be in harmony.

It hurts because sometimes it does.

At least a bit. 

You're capable of being powerful and soft.

Explore nature and aspects of energy.

Do NOT push yourself.

Just ask for help.

Soak up the wealth of information and watch it change the feeling of "overdone" into "we're all in this together." 

When you know these powers for what they are, they heighten your capacity to open spiritually, love more deeply and fearlessly, create with greater mastery, and move through the world with skill and delight.


With Love,


Lauren ZieglerComment