How Emotional Mastery Will Change Your Life

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I was younger once, and trust me I was no angel. 

I've since discovered meditation tools that have helped me to learn and teach internal intimacy and emotional intelligence to help people live more fully.

But when I was moving through adolescence, I knew two categories of emotions — either a sort of monotone state or a triggered fury, like anger. I was angry at being bullied for years. Angry that I didn’t use my voice to stand up for myself. Angry when people did something that affected me and angry when they apologized. Beyond that, I kept a lot of my thoughts and feelings trapped inside, for fear of rocking the boat. 

Turning the other cheek and going with the flow was my style. But having held in my voice to avoid conflict, when the feelings tried to come out they didn’t know how, so I was angry. 

I kept pushing my feelings away because the only way I understood how to express anger was though explosion or implosion.

Any emotional expression was a respite from the anger imploding inside. My chosen blade was two fingers I stuck down my throat daily back then, sharpened by my stone-cold discipline to be a good girl and to not bother other people.

 

Emotional Mastery

I didn’t just grow up and out of this. I intentionally learned about emotions through formal study. I began to trust them and to feel safe expressing them. 

Of course, emotional understanding is forever evolving, though I do believe we can master the foundation. We can mastery how to navigate them.

Mastery of our emotional repertoire takes practice to learn — just like anything else.

By emotional mastery I mean the capacity to identify, experience and use emotions to be oneself in the full expression. And to recognize the same in others.

 
 
The call of the soul convinces; it is a seduction into psychological faith in images and the thought of the heart, into an animation of the world.
— James Hillman, Jungian
 Art by Lily Johannah

Art by Lily Johannah

 

Emotions are Language of the Soul

“It is through emotion that we get the exaggerated sense of soul, of honor, of hurt, of anxiety, of our own person. In emotion we get the awareness that we are not alone in ourselves, not in control over all of ourselves, that there is another person, if only an unconscious complex, who also has something, often a great deal, to say about our behavior." — Hillman

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So finding the soul through the unconscious is a stumbling sort of discovery. We fall into emotional moods, affects, and discover a new dimension, which much as we wish to rid ourselves of, leads us downward into the depths of ourselves.

Paying attention to emotional messages is a way to navigate through our unique lives. And before making moves to condemn or fix our feelings we must stand with the emotions and the psyche. 

What do the messages have to say about the state of my soul? What is my spirit saying through these symptoms?

The purpose of emotion is to connect us deeply to meaning. They help guide us through life.

Do you want to learn the tools to masterfully navigate your feelings instead of having them suddenly, unconsciously and covertly take over and co-opt your life?

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