The most common excuse every meditator has used



Most of what we do, we do for a purpose — to get something or somewhere. But our meditation practice is different from other things we do. 

The goal?

Be who you are.

How often do you avoid sitting and just being who you are?

To what lengths will you go to avoid that?

Okay, I'll admit it first: mindless activity is one of my favorite avoidance strategies.

From being overly ambitious with my schedule, to making a complicated meal, to watching a nature documentary — all ways I stay busy and "checked-out".

Please don't get me wrong, striving to be somewhere or something else has it's place. 

The problem is when we're not cultivating the other side of the coin.

Mindfulness meditation is unique in that it’s not directed toward getting us to be different from how we already are. Instead, it help us become aware of what’s already true moment by moment. We could say that it teaches us how to be unconditionally present; that is, it helps us be present with whatever is happening, no matter what it is.
— Karen Kissel Wegela, Ph.D., Psychology Today

I can’t even tell you how many times a day I hear, “I want to meditate more, but I just don’t have the time.”

Granted, I’m a meditation teacher so I get the brunt of the excuses, but I hear people say this to other people all the time. Most recently, at the grocery store.

I get it, we don't have time to do meditation (blaming it on time is the easy out).

There are other, more accurate reasons why we're not practicing.

Why?

It's hard, that's why. 

It requires discipline and it's different from all the other things we do.

Plus we're addicted to striving.

I'll bet if I say, "non-striving" ... you're already rolling your eyes, feeling icky and generally confused. 

That's because it's not familiar.

It's not even interesting to you, if you're caught in the hamster wheel of doing as a way of being.

Cultivating the attitude of "non-striving" helps us pay attention to whatever is happening.

The goal isn't to take away from all the stuff you have to do. It takes the unnecessary effort out of what we do (of which there's plenty).

The goal is to learn to be.

To just sit there, and be a human being in the present moment.

What you do do, will come out of this being.


In Support,

Lauren