Overworking is not resilience
As an independent contractor teaching from here to there, I sometimes fantasize about how much work I'll get done once I get home for the night.
Just me and the laptop.
I 'race' home (in bumper to bumper traffic), figure out dinner and sit down with my tea.
Then, I try to have that amazing evening work session, and nothing.
Even worse, after refreshing my email and reading the same study over and over, I'm too exhausted to get to my projects.
Why should getting home be so depleting? I'm just sitting there in the car doing nothing. Where has my inspiration gone?
Why can't I be tougher, more resilient and determined, so that I can succeed in whatever I set out to do?
We often take a military-like "tough" approach to resilience and grit.
We think of a boxer going one more round.
An entrepreneur pulling an all-nighter and then pressing on.
A sleep deprived Mom peeling herself up out of bed to continue trucking forward with the things that need to be done.
As though the longer we can tough it out, the more successful and more resilient we are.
The whole thing is scientifically inaccurate — it's flawed thinking.
Because overwork and exhaustion are the opposite of resilience.
Shawn Achor teaches us: "The key to resilience is trying really hard, then stopping, recovering, and then trying again."
According to the laws of biology, the more overworked we are, the more value there is in the re-setting.
So, if you really want to build resilience, start by strategically stopping.
Give yourself resources to be really tough by taking recovery periods.
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